Wednesday, July 25, 2012
A Public Service Announcement
I try to keep this blog mostly about my own experience. Sometimes, if it touches my experience, I will relate something about someone else. I want to take a moment to let anyone who reads this blog know that it is NEVER about you unless I call you out specifically.
I grew up in a house of liars and while I am very, very good at it, I try only to use my power for good (i.e. Santa Clause, birthday surprises, etc.). I also grew up with people who were passive aggressive and practice subterfuge like it was their job.
For this reason, among others, I am kind of...well...in your face. I am direct and upfront and will always tell you the truth. That is, I will tell you the truth with your permission. My friends know that if they ask my opinion and I ask them, "Are you sure you want to hear what I have to say?", that they are going to get it all, delivered with as much kindness and love as I can, but all nonetheless.
I wanted to take a moment and make it clear that I would never write anything veiled in order to get you to "understand" or "hear the truth" or any other of that bullshit. I would also never betray a confidence. If you tell me something and ask me not to share then it goes "in the vault" with the possible exception of my husband and even then I'll ask, "Can I tell the hubs?" before I actually do.
And, even though I think it keeps us ashamed and in the shadows, I guard and hold dear the concept of "anonymous" in Alcoholics Anonymous. Just because I have a big mouth doesn't mean the rest of the world wants their shit known all over hell's half acre.
So, if I've given you the link to this blog because I think it might help you or because you are my friend and I trust you with my secrets, or, in the case of my family, I want you to understand why I am the way I am; then rest assured that if I am writing about you, you will definitely know it. I won't hide it or disguise it or make nice.
It's just not my style.
And, to my handful of readers, thank you so much for reading and commenting. Even if you didn't read and comment I would continue to write because it cleanses me but I am so appreciative of everyone out in this blogging space. You guys rock my world.